I have been here in East Islip, Long Island with Luca for a week now. It has been so great to be with him and we have easily picked up where we left off. He is doing an amazing job taking care of himself, self regulating, speaking his mind.
We have a nice balance going between seeing friends, family, outings, barbecues…and downtime. Luca loves the pool and spends a lot of time swimming. He gets along famously with his cousins and I love how they connect even though we live on opposite coasts.
For me personally, spending time at home with my parents and my sister is a lot of fun. Margaret lives two towns over and we see them almost every day. We went to the Skyzone Trampoline Park, had a sleepover, many pool parties and lots of pizza. It’s harder to see my brother as he lives in Westchester, but we all managed to go up there yesterday which was nice.
Luca and I drove to Purchase College beforehand to go to the Neuberger Art Museum. I proposed the idea of a Luca/ Papa outing to see a favorite de Kooning painting and he was all for it.
I have taken him to many museums and he seems to really enjoy looking at art, almost as much as me. One of my favorite things in life is looking at paintings on walls of museums and galleries.
The Neuberger is a small museum with a great collection of mid century American Art, a few Europeans and some African Art. I went there in the mid 90s to see de Kooning, Pollock, Rothko, Giacometti, small but important paintings by each. “Marilyn Monroe” 1954 by de Kooning is a personal favorite from his “woman” series.
Luca and I had the whole museum to ourselves and it only cost $5 for me, free for Luca. His favorite in the main gallery was Pollock. I impressed him by identifying artists without looking at the labels next to their pictures. I explained how Helen Frankenthaler for example, has a very recognizable style.
There was a special show on Alex Katz called “Brand-New and Terrific: Alex Katz in the 1950s”. I don’t normally care for Alex Katz but I realized I loved his work from the late fifties. I find the portraits he is known for too slick and flat. These were rougher, more painterly, a nice surprise for me.
The perfect amount of time for Luca in a museum is about an hour, and this museum is just right for that. During that hour, we looked at art, discussed it, admired, critiqued. He didn’t ask to tell me about one of his comics or role play some science fiction characters during our visit. Just me and my boy soaking in some culture, pretty awesome.
In order to test my body for going back to work, I worked on a project to get Mom and Dad’s outdoor shower draining better. I removed the bluestone floor, dug out two wheelbarrows worth of dirt and weeds. Then I lined the bottom with six bags of river stones for drainage. After that I constructed a wood platform to stand on made out of cedar 2 x 4s and decking. Looks good and it works do far! It felt good to do some real work.